Do Couples Really Have to Talk Every Day

Do Couples Really Have to Talk Every Day

Some people put a lot of thought into whether or not they have to talk to their significant other every day. The side you take in this debate could have a lasting impact on your relationships from here on out. There are impassioned speakers on both sides, and their arguments are both very emotional. How could you claim to care about someone, even love them, and not want to talk every day? Especially in this day and age, when it’s never been easier to talk to someone than it is right now. On the other hand, who is so clings and insecure that not talking for a single day will destroy your relationship? The answer to the question is a little more complex than that, and you have to take a look at the various factors involved. Like so many things in life, it lacks a basic yes or no answer. Here’s the breakdown of factors involved in whether or not you need to be talking to your girlfriend every day.

How Much Time Do You Get to Spend Together Face to Face

Talking means calling on the phone, texting, emailing, messaging...
“Talking” means calling on the phone, texting, emailing, messaging…
First we have to assume that by “talking” every day we don’t mean actual face to face communication. If you are in the same place at the same time, it would be downright weird to not talk to your girlfriend. A good tip for any relationship is “Don’t ignore them when they come right up to you and say good morning.” Barring times when you can see each other and communicate face to face, “talking” means calling on the phone, texting, emailing, messaging on social media or instant messenger, and any sort of video chat. Whether or not you need to do any of these things every day depends on the amount of time that you can spend with each other face to face. The more in person interaction you can have with your girlfriend, the less important any of these factors become.

If you can only see your girlfriend in person twice a week, it’s fairly important to touch base with her via another form. You and she have the ability to talk, chat, and keep in touch even when you can’t see her. If you can see her for several hours a day five days a week, it becomes a lot less important whether or not you talk on the days that you don’t see each other. If you’re in a long distance relationship it becomes even more important to talk frequently. If you’re not going to be able to see her in person for a few weeks or a month you should definitely take the time to text or call her nearly every day, if not every day.

How Long Do You Talk at a Time

You don't want to run out of things to talk about
You don’t want to run out of things to talk about
Of course, you should also consider how long your talks with her are. Even if you’re a busy person with plenty going on in your life you’re not going to have much to talk about if you’re having 2 hour long phone calls every night. In fact, you’ll have even less to talk about because you’re on the phone with her for 2 hours instead of doing something fun. Generally, the longer you spend talking each time you do the less frequently you need to do it. You don’t want to run out of things to talk about and have things become awkward between you.

Try Reading the Same Book to Have Something to Talk About

Read same bookOf course, it’s easier to keep in touch if you have something to update each other about. A good way to keep in touch if you’re in a long distance relationship is to share some things together. Closeness comes from shared experience, and you can get some of that by reading the same book at the same time, or watching the same movies and TV shows. Even if you don’t have time to talk much, a simple text with the page number where you stopped reading the night before can be enough to remind her that the two of you are sharing something even though you’re so far away. It also takes some of the pressure off of you to be interesting every time she calls. The bottom line is that you should talk to her as often as it takes so that you don’t miss her. If you can go several days with just a check in, fine.